10 Tips to Get Through the Bonding Period

At IMS Sotogrande, Tips through bonding period is one of the key topics we explore in Montessori education. What is the bonding period?It is a period of time designed to help children integrate into a new space, with new caregivers and a new stage in their lives. It is the process of turning the unknown (unknown environment) into the known (a safe environment).

What is Tips through bonding period?

What is the objective?Help the new child so that his or her first days and moments in the new center are a positive and respectful experience, both for him and his family. To achieve this, it is necessary to establish mutual understanding between all parties (family, children, teachers), creating a relationship of trust that facilitates the integration of the child into the center.

1. Adjust the schedule: It begins with a brief stay at the center, progressively increasing the time. Each child needs their own time.
2. Comfort objects: The child can bring an object that reminds them of home and provides security and comfort, such as a blanket or stuffed animal. Avoid very attractive toys that may attract the attention of other children.
3. Quick goodbyes: Avoid excessively prolonging goodbyes, You must convey security to the child and avoid unnecessary dramas. Goodbyes should be firm, quick and with a smile.
4. Short and specific messages: Avoid long explanations and deceptions that can “comfort” the child, since he stops listening and the opposite effect occurs, causing anxiety. For example: “Dad will come soon”, “Mom will come after work.”
5. Positive Language: It is important to talk to the child about the new center before their first visit, highlighting all the nice and fun things they can do there.
6. Motivation at home: Normalize the start of classes, show enthusiasm for their progress. Create a relaxed atmosphere in their first days, giving them time to have breakfast, get dressed, without rushing and calmly.
7. Consistency in attendance and schedules: Initially, children may exhibit various behaviors (tantrums, vomiting, crying) to avoid going to school. It is important that during this period they attend daily and comply with the center’s schedules. Establishing routines gives them security and confidence.
8. Time and dedication: This new change can generate insecurity in the child. After leaving the center, spend more time, kisses, hugs, games and laughter than usual.
9. Trust the teaching team: You have already chosen the center that best suits your expectations and provides you with security. The educational staff will address your concerns and doubts, ensuring the well-being of your child. It is advisable not to exchange information during the child’s farewell.
10. Don’t feel guilty: You are giving them a brilliant opportunity for their physical, social, emotional and intellectual development. In the memories of a happy childhood, there is always a school, a teacher and friends you played with during recess.